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Relationship Counselor Shares 5 Tips for Modern Dating

Navigating the modern dating world can be overwhelming, especially with the abundance of options at our fingertips. When searching for a potential partner, it’s crucial to have a clear idea of what qualities and characteristics align with your values and relationship goals. Here are a few things to keep in mind as you date!

1. Shared Values

One of the fundamental pillars of a successful relationship is shared values. Take the time to understand your own values and what is important to you in a partner. Shared values provide a strong foundation for long-term compatibility.

2. Communication Skulls

Effective communication is vital for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Pay attention to how a potential partner communicates with you and others. Do they actively listen to you? Are they able to express their thoughts and feelings openly and honestly? Healthy communication involves respectful dialogue, understanding, and constructively navigating conflicts.

3. Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is the capacity to understand and manage one’s emotions and empathize with others. Look for a partner who demonstrates emotional intelligence by being self-aware, empathetic, and able to express and regulate their emotions. Emotional intelligence allows for deeper connection, empathy, and mutual support in a relationship.

4. Similar Life Goals

While individual goals may differ, it’s important to consider if your potential partner has compatible long-term goals. Aligning your life goals can contribute to a sense of shared purpose and ensure you’re both moving in the same direction.

5. Respect and Support

A healthy relationship is built on a foundation of mutual respect and support. Observe how a potential partner treats you and others. Do they show kindness and respect? Are they supportive of your dreams and aspirations? Choose someone who uplifts and encourages you, and who is committed to your personal growth and well-being.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by dating and having difficulty identifying what is important to you in a relationship, then counseling may be helpful to you!

When it’s time to go to counseling to build healthy dating habits?

If you’re feeling insecurity, anxiety, and noticing patterns of swiping that interfere with your self-respect and sense of worth, then it’s time to seek professional help. Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Method are both evidence-based therapies that help you identify unhelpful patterns of dating and build more secure relationships.

Inner work through your attachment styles and relationship trauma history can encourage establishing healthier dating relationships and ultimately a relationship that lasts (if that’s what you want!).

At ChangeWell Psych, we offer therapy approaches to help you navigate dating, deepen existing relationships, and determine if your relationship ultimately does not serve you.